Much emphasis is placed on the Maid of Honor, but the role of the Best Man is just as critical for the groom. The Best Man is not only one of the facilitators of the day's events as it relates to the groom, but he is best suited to deal with the contingencies of the day. Reception, and wedding transportation, obstacles, forgotten items, unexpected guests (such as angry ex-girlfriends) the best man should be a competent character who is reliable and resourceful. Beginning with the bachelor party, until the moment the groom and his bride drive off to their honeymoon, the Best Man assists with the grooms every step and need. His mission falls into four main objectives: To see that the groom makes it successfully to the alter; to assist in any unforeseen reception problems; to ensure that the groom maintains enough dignity not make a fool of himself; and finally, to see to it that the groom and bride successfully make it on their way to their honeymoon.

The Best Man Checklist

Before the Wedding Day
" Arrange for the bachelors dinner or buck's party.
" Select a gift for the groom
" Act as a liaison for the groom's friends and family
" Confirm honeymoon travel arrangements.
" Write your speech       (sample)
" Provide transportation for the groom to get to the ceremony and from the reception to the wedding night accommodation.

Leaving for the Wedding Ceremony
" Help the groom dress and finish packing
" Insure that the car is packed for the honeymoon.
" Don't forget the Wedding Rings!
" Travel Tickets, Passport, ID etc.
" Take your Reception Speech.
" Car Keys.
" Money/Travelers Cheques.
" Handkerchief.
" Any gifts or acknowledgments.
" Cash or credit card for any needed payments

The Ceremony
Ensure that the groom:
" Uses the bathroom
" Shoes are tied
" Pant's fly is up
" Face and hair are in order
" If vows are written, that they are on him
" Nothing is between his teeth
" Fear and second thoughts are calmed and put to rest
" Sign the Marriage license.
" Pay the clergy fee.

The Reception
If required, the best man may have to arrive early and stay even after the bride and groom depart. He may be requested to pay the vendors on behalf of the couple and to ensure that the reception facility or restaurant is left in good order. Whatever arrangements are made be sure to fully review them with the Groom at least a couple of days before the wedding date. Regardless, here is a checklist that will be helpful the Best Man to have.
" Musicians or DJ setup.
" Speech to the groom and bride.
" Offer the first toast.
" Dance with the bride and her attendants.
" Read telegrams or special mail for the bride and groom.

The Best Man's Panic Kit for the Groom
Here are some helpful items that the Best Man should have with him. If you are pragmatic, you may want to purchase these items in advance for all those unforeseen moments to come. Throw them in a zip up bag and have them handy.
" Panadol, cold/flu tablets.
" Antacid.
" Hair comb or brush.
" Black magic marker.
" Small towel or refresher towels.
" Hair gel or hairspray.
" Extra toothbrush & toothpaste.
" Deodorant.
" Mouthwash.
" A copy of the Grooms Reception Speech.